Relationships are easy to begin with.  But as they develop over time, one can become content, but sometimes this contentment can become complacent and even leave you questioning if it is bordom.  Relationships, especially deep, strong relationships, well, they need working at.  Remember to give reassurance, instill trust and give gratitude always.  What you want from a relationship is what you need to be projecting yourself.  Gill explores unconventional learnings that represnt the differenct stages of a relationship:

1. The honeymoon stage

In the honeymoon stage everything happens effortlessly. You don't force anything. It's just beautiful. You can easily think you have won or think you've found your ideal soul mate. Everything is perfect and pretty. You just want to spend more and more time together. You even start to fantasise about the future together.  It's just beautiful, so much gratitude because you have found each other.

2. The testing stage.

The second stage is the testing stage. Some call it the reality stage. Love is no longer new; the sex is no longer desirable or appetising. You question if your feelings have faded. The acting is over, the reality kicks in. It's either you tolerate, accept or it's over. You start finding fault in your partner. This doesn't mean you no longer love them, but you now see them from a reality perspective. You start fighting and doubting if you are really in love.

3. The Give in or give up stage. 

This is the most difficult stage of the relationship. It's called the building stage. A lot of fights can happen. You start getting angry at little things and become more insecure because you no longer see eye to eye on a lot of things. It is the higher stage of the relationship where breakup is highly possible. The stage where intimacy is dry, and love is cold. If you are both not mature enough the relationship will end here. One will start to cheat for the taste of new love.

4. The winning stage.

In this stage you both accept that you are two different individuals and imperfect. You both have different qualities and flaws but still choose each other and want to stick together no matter what. You choose the relationship over your feelings and emotions at times. Many divorces happen because a lot of people marry at the honeymoon stage.

They marry someone that’s still a stranger, and when the reality kicks in they think he or she has changed.